Please check your ISP first. When I checked RTT information recorded in Mudfish, it seems RTT stddev values to most of the mudfish nodes are quite unstable. It means your ISP has a network issue. For details please check http://ko.loxch.com/userrtt/?uid=277656 link.

my isp seems stable. in other games i dont have any problems. when i use noping for archeage i get down to 70-80.

Werid in my side.  Then did you try to checke 'Status -> Nodes' menu to see RTT stddev values between your desktop and mudfish nodes?  I can see that RTT stddev to most of mudfish nodes are higher than 10 ms.  It means your ISP has unstable connection to other ISPs.